Happy Mother's Day

“Some mothers raise children while still trying to heal the child within themselves.” - Founder, The 4F Club

A Note Before You Read:

This space was created for healing.

This is not a place for criticism, judgment, or negativity. This is my journey toward healing, faith, and freedom.

I hope that whoever reads these words finds the courage to begin their own healing journey or shares this with someone who may be avoiding the inevitable, as I did for so many years, hoping the pain would just disappear on its own.

P.S. It didn’t.

I decided to launch The 4F Club softly on this day because my trauma began with my mother. Not only my biological mother, but also my first and now my second stepmother.

I refuse to continue the pattern, and because of that, I am fighting for freedom, not just for myself, but for my children as well.

I pray these blogs encourage others to seek healing before it is too late. It took me 30 years to realize that the destruction left behind from constantly living as the victim and never truly finding freedom had to come to an end.

This blog is my way of grounding myself and pushing as hard as I can to break free from the trauma.

I am not a therapist. However, I do have a therapist, and the exercises, reflections, and healing journey you are about to witness are very real.

I fully believe God created me with a purpose and allowed me to endure certain things in life so that one day I could tell my story. I have tried writing books before, but something always stopped me. The few people who know my full story have encouraged me to write a novel, but it would take the rest of my life to tell it all.

So instead, you will receive my story in real time as I walk through trauma therapy and healing.

I have been in therapy since I was four years old. I currently attend twice per week and will soon begin going three times per week because of the amount of trauma I still need to work through.

I am not doing this for attention. I am doing this in hopes that whoever finds these words does not wait as long as I did. Avoiding healing causes damage not only to yourself, but also to the people around you.

So this Mother’s Day, I dedicate this space to myself and to every mother still fighting for freedom from childhood trauma while raising children of their own.

Happy Mother’s Day.